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Saturday, August 18, 2012

Star Struck!

Hi everyone! I know I haven't written in a very, very long time. It has been an extremely rough summer. Thankfully after a really hard month of July, August seems to be going a bit smoother. I've been home with Nathan 100% of the time now that we are both done with our summer school programs. Since I've been home I've been able to catch up on so much of the reading I'd left behind in my email inbox. I'm subscribed to the Autism Speaks YouTube channel and one of my favorite series is Kerry's Korner. I posted one of Kerry's videos this past July (in response to the whole 50 Cent debacle). Well, I decided to go back and see some more of Kerry's Korner and stumbled upon a video of him reading a poem he wrote about his experience as a person with autism. I was SO touched when he spoke of his parents and hearing his words was like he was saying what Nathan has been trying to tell us for years. I almost felt transported into the future imagining Nathan saying these words about us, his parents. I HAD to find a way to contact Kerry!!! So I spent almost a whole day trying to find him... and I did, so I emailed him. And, guess what? HE WROTE BACK!!!

I just wanted to ask a simple question: based on his experience, what can he recommend as the best and worst things I could do for Nathan? Kerry sent me some links to various places online where I could learn more. Here is a list of resources he shared/recommended:

Here is part of Kerry's story, including some words by his mom from the Autism Speaks Blog:

20 Years of Autism: A Mother and Son Perspective

March 5, 2012s
This blog post is by Kerry Magro. recently started a new video blog called “My Autism My Voice,” where he discusses a variety of topics. If you would like to contact him directly about questions/comments related to this post he can be reached at kerry.magro@autismspeaks.org or through his Facebook page here.
On January 15th of this year I turned 24. To be honest this milestone really didn’t mean much to me besides knowing that in a year I could rent a car for the very first time. 2 weeks later I received an email from a parent in regards to helping her grandson who has PDD-NOS. Maybe more than any of the other emails I had received before, this question was very detailed asking for several questions regarding topics such as an early diagnosis, therapies, early childhood, how to approach the diagnosis, etc. Even though I’ve helped answer questions before I asked my mom to help assist me in answering her questions.
What I would receive back from my mom was something I didn’t even realize and that was it had been 20 years since I was first diagnosed at 4. 20 years of autism. It made me realize how much time had actually flew by and of how I got to where I am today. I thought about the milestones I’ve  hit: playing for my high school basketball team, being student council president, having a girlfriend, graduating college, becoming a motivational speaker, writing a book, and maybe most importantly…having a voice to be heard. Time slowed down for a bit.
My Mom Wrote to The Woman:
“Looking at Kerry today I wish 20 years ago someone had offered me inspiration and hope that he represents and I can see why anyone would ask the question of how he got to where he is today. His PDD-NOS was severe. Although we did not know what PDD NOS was they mentioned that some children were institutionalized and that’s all I heard.
Kerry was our delightful only child reaching most development (height, weight) milestones except speech until he was 2.5 years old. At 2.5 he started to show extreme signs of sensory integration dysfunction where he was afraid of a wide variety of sensory issues. Wind, rain, water, noises loud and soft were major issues. There was a time when we could not bathe him – uneven surfaces such as sand and or swings where he couldn’t feel the bottom below him were a problem. He was asked to leave two different pre schools because they couldn’t handle him the later he preferred isolation would not play or participate with other children and had delayed speech, limited pretend play, echophilia, twirling, extreme difficulty with transitions and tantrums. He had fine and gross motor delays. When I dropped him in the morning he would scream he didn’t want to go in and when I picked him up in the afternoon I would have to drag him screaming because he didn’t want to leave. Once home with a caregiver he would scream at the top of the stairs “Go away”.
Kerry was diagnosed first by Hackensack Hospital and then by Doctor Margaret Hertzig, The Director of Pediatric Psychiatry at Cornell. Doctor Hertzig is a world-renowned expert in Autistic and Autism Spectrum Disorders. She saw him as he grew marking improvement she saw. Interestingly to us she reconfirmed Kerry’s diagnosis last year for his accommodations for GRE’s as he started graduate school.
The Kerry you see today is not the Kerry I grew up with.
As to care Kerry did not come together for many years when he was diagnosed. Finally we tried to get him into a pre school handicapped class. There was a delay in that so we began Occupational therapy (OT) at home with a Pediatric OT working on the SID issues as well as speech. OT continued at home till he was 7 as well as in school where he was in a multi-handicapped class receiving speech, and OT. At 7 he began intensive physical, OT therapy at Hackensack Hospital where he did a lot of vestibular planning issues. He is seen privately to this day for OT/PT as needed by a local PT.
One of the major things that worked for us was sports. Although he did not want to be around people I got him involved in pee-wee bowling and then sent him to a JCC summer camp for children with neurological issues. The camp was wonderful in that they did a different activity every 40 minutes and the forced transitions helped condition him a lot. The vestibular planning therapy also help a lot.
Kerry started to respond to recognition, praise, rewards and I ran with that, we have a million great job stickers; magnets, trophies and I developed my own token economy barter system with him. If he would try something three times he would get a predetermined prize (seeing a movie, an action figure, a game) that we agreed on. If after the third time he did not want to do something I would agree to let him drop it. Since he wanted to do nothing three times sometimes seemed interminable for both of us but I kept to it and found a kid who loves bowling, played soccer, basketball etc. T- ball was rougher with the co-ordination issues and was one that got dropped but not till the third season.
All this time, speech, physical and occupational therapies continued, we also took lessons piano at the house to help him out.”
To have this written out for me to read left me with so many emotions. Some of the stuff was so long ago I had no recollection of it whatsoever. What stayed with me though was the passion and the love that came with this letter. No matter how many struggles were presented, my parents were always willing to go the extra step to help me and today I want to live by that example to help others.
My parents are strong. They are saints. Without them I have no idea where I am 5 years down the line let alone 20. I know I still have a long way to go but one thing I know is for the next 20 years that I have autism I’m not going to be sitting down. I’m going to fight, I’m going to serve, I’m going to commit, I’m going to conquer and I’m going to communicate for the better day for us now and for the future. Please join me by having your perspectives of autism, both for you and your family heard in the comments section below. Thank you.
To see the actual blog post, please visit: http://blog.autismspeaks.org/2012/03/05/kerry-mother-son/

After hearing his mother's description, it is hard to believe, but here is Kerry today:

The more I read and learn about Kerry, the more star-struck I've become to know that I am now "pen pals" with one of the most amazing autism successes I've witnessed in my life. In my search I have learned that he not only has an undergraduate degree, but he is soon to finish his master's degree as well. He is employed by Autism Speaks and hopes to one day become a motivational speaker. He also worked as a screen-write for the movie Joyful Noise!!! Did I say I was star struck???

So, Kerry has now ignited a deeper passion in me: to continue to push for Nathan to be seen for his strengths, not his weaknesses. To continue to support each and every individual with autism with Kerry's success as my driving force. Reading his story, it is almost impossible for me to believe where he is and what he's accomplished. I hope you, too, will find Kerry's story an inspiration in your life!


Please help Kerry reach 10,000 "likes" on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kerrymagro88

Kerry Magro is an adult with autism. He is currently part of the Autism Speaks family and shares his experiences with the world through the Autism Speaks blog, Kerry's Korner, his own website, http://kerrymagro.com/ and his blog www.myautismvoice.com.

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